8th January 2012, 11:33 PM
Author - Virarajendra
TAMILS SHOULD LEARN TO RESPECT AND DO JUSTICE TO WOMEN BOTH YOUNG AND OLD - AT HOME AND IN PUBLIC PLACES
Women like Men are a wonderful creation of God. However the histories of all countries throughout the World have recorded, that many Men (not all) from time immemorial have dominated, enslaved, and tortured Women mentally, physically and sexually.
TamilNadu too from the earliest times, have not been an exception to this naked truth. Whatever happened in the past is past, and it is prudent that we consider what is best for the present and for the future of Women in Tamil Nadu in particular.
The woes and greivences of many silently suffering Women from injustices meted to them by the Men at home and in public places - in TamilNadu, in other States of India, and in many Asian Countries though well known to many, are still not being well addressed in public platforms and forums, and postive steps are not being taken to put an end to this situation even in this third millenium, whereas in many other countries especially the western countries the Women enjoy much social security and justice from the respective governments from the acts of the irresponsible Men.
There are many social injustices done in our Tamil society to Women both young and old, at homes and in public, which many of us are aware of but collectively have done nothing to remedy this situation - by educating the society in this direction and instituting social reforms to improve the prevailing conditions of our society.
This doesnot mean that all Men are cruel to Women. There are very many who realise and appreciate the rights of women, likings of women, the dignity of women, and respect their social freedom and freedom in voicing their opinions, very kind, polite and courtious to them, and also respect and value their modesty.
But fair majority of Men donot fall into this category, as a result of which the Women in TamilNadu class all Men as cruel. The reasons for this anti-social behaviour of many Men could be attributed to their "illiteracy", lack of "ethical studies" and "disaplined way of life" from their "childhood days", lack of knowlege of their "religious teachings", and their holding on to the traditional thinking that Women are weaker than Men, and that they should respect Men blindly even if the Men are wrongful in their acts and words or do grave injustice to the Women.
It is hightime all Social Reformers with much influence in the society, and all Religious Leaders commanding the respect of the society, very seriously think in this direction and evolve a strategy to arrest this situation without allowing the Tamil Society from deteriorating any further especially in this third millenium.
It is also very essential that all Tamil Women who have come to higher social status by way of education as professionals in different walks of life, should band together and form a powerful "Tamil Nadu Ladies Association" to give a new lease of life to their under privileged fellow sisters from these injustices from their Men, and from the Men outside their homes. The educated Women naturally inherits the vim and vigour to question and fight back the social injustices meted to them by Men at home and at public places, unlike the less educated and underprivileged who become victims of the atrocities of the irresponsible Men.
The membership of this Association should be from every cities and villages of Tamil Nadu and should become a very powerfull organisation fighting against the social injustices of all sorts to Women by Men, be it to the village Women in "Kudisais" or city Women living in "Maligais".
This Association should have a membership of very great strength intellectually, by ensuring that there are many women - Professors, Lecturers, Doctors, Engineers, Lawyers Accountants, Managers, Directors of Companies, Jounalists, other Professionals and women in other commanding positions in TamilNadu Public and Private sector.
This Association should have branch offices in all cities and villages in TamilNadu and should be financially powerful by collection of Funds from various Foreign Social Development Organisations, and from funds from a large membership of Tamil Women from the length and breadth of TamilNadu, to educate the Tamil Society at large on the utmost necessity to Respect and do Justice to Women both Young and Old, at Home and in Public Places, and to fight all grave injustices meted to them by very irresponsible Men within and outside their homes involving restriction to their freedom of thoughts and acts, against - mental and physical torture, degrading of their modesty by rapeing, sexual harassment, eve teasing and kidnapping - even if it is required to be fought at the Law Courts.
"The high social development of Tamil Nadu" - entirely depends on the upliftment of the "majority under privillaged Tamil Women" by way of higher education, environmental ethical and religious studies, infusing good - social etiquettes, habits and practices, with pleasent qualities, politeness, and courtesy towards others, refiness in their ways of home life and in dressing and grooming themselves very neatly in their traditional garbs more fitting for the third millenium.
It is this upliftment of the majority underpriviledged Women population, "which will help them to groom and bring-up, well disaplined, cultured, socially and ethically refined clear thinking Men population in Tamil Nadu - with pleasent qualities, having better norms of social etiquette, refiness in their ways and attitude towards their home and public life, and smartness in their dressing and grooming practices. The very "thought" that they should respect the girls and the elderly women of any age not only among their own kith and kin but also from "outside their homefronts", should be instilled in their minds from their childhood days as early as 'five years' - "by their very own Mothers and Fathers".
In this instance I wish to remind of the famous Palamoli,
Noolaip pol Selai, Thaayaip pol Pillai.
The present day legitimate woes and grievences meted by Women of Tamil Nadu from irresponsible Men - are very clearly portrayed by a contributor to the former Forum Hub (the present Mayyam Hub) namely "Meenakshi" in the year 2003/4 - (if I am not mistaken). I am reproducing her postings from two different threads in the Forum Hub of that period, and my posting in the same Forum Hub during that period in reply to same. We must remember this is not only the voice of the “Meenakshi” of the Forum Hub, but it the voice of thousands and thousands of women like “Meenakshi” throughout Tamil Nadu and other part of the World where Tamils live.
Will the privileged Women and the clear thinking Men of Tamil Nadu jointly come forward, to do a strategic planning for course of actions, to put an end to the woes and grievances of these underprivileged Women, and also help them in their Social Upliftment & Freedom.
"Meenakshi’s postings are reproduced below, which clearly shows the legitimates grievences of Women in Tamil Nadu which needs urgent attention".
IT IS MENFOLK WHO HATE WOMEN SO MUCH. IT IS MEN WHO DO BRIDE BURNING, HARRASS THEIR WIFES FOR DOWRY, KILL THEIR WIFES ON SUSPECION, FORCE THEIR WIFES TO GIVE UP THEIR JOBS. MEN GET DRUNK LIKE HELL AND DESTROY ALL MONEY. MEN BEAT THEIR WIFES BLACK AND BLUE .MEN KILL GIRL CHILD AT EVERY POSSIBLE WAY AND TRY TO ABORT THE FOETUS IF IT HAPPENS TO BE A GIRL. MEN SUPPRESS ALL WOMEN IN THE NAME OF CULTURE AND PREVENT WOMEN FROM LEAVING THEIR HOMES. MEN DENY WOMEN EDUCATION AND CAREER AND MEN TREAT WOMEN AS SLAVES, MEN ABUSE WOMEN, INDULGE IN EVE TEASING, RAPE WOMEN AND SEXUALLY HARRAS THEM.
IT IS NOT WOMEN WHO HATE MEN. TELL ME HAVE ANY WOMEN DEMANDED DOWRY FROM THEIR HUSBAND? HAVE ANY WOMEN KILLED BOY CHILDS ? HAS THERE EVER BEEN A CASE OF BRIDEGROOM BURNING? HAS THERE EVER BEEN A CASE OF MALE INFANTICIDE? IS THERE ANYTHING LIKE ADAM TEASING? DO WOMEN EVER HARRAS THEIR MALE COLLLEAGUES SEXUALLY IN WORK PLACE? DO WOMEN IMPOSE PURDAH ON MEN? DO WOMEN PUT RESTRICTION ON WHAT CLOTHES MEN MUST WEAR? DO WOMEN DEMAND THAT THEIR HUSBAND MUST QUIT JOB AFTER MARRIAGE? DO WOMEN GET DRUNK AND NEGLECT THEIR FAMILIES? THINK OF ALL. THINK HOW WOMEN IS TREATED AS A SLAVE AND KEPT IN CHAINS BY MEN IN THIS WORLD.
SO WHEN EVER A WOMAN ACHEIVES SOMETHING IN SOCIETY, THE CHAUVINIST MEN WHO HAVE NO CULTURE IN ACCEPTING HER ACHEIVEMENT DESCEND TO VULGAR DEPTHS AND DESCRIBE HER AS HAVING SLEPT WITH SO AND SO, AND WHEN A WOMAN TRIES TO POINT OUT THIS YOU BRAND HER AS BITCH.
God could not be present everywhere so he created mothers (women)
Last edited by virarajendra; 25th January 2013 at 06:23 PM.
8th January 2012 11:33 PM
10th January 2012, 06:36 PM
It is a saddening truth that this odious 'bitch' calling habit of male chauvnistic pigs at the drop of a hat is omnipresent irrespetive of social status- educationally and financially. Rich or poor, educated or illiterate the male pshyche is the same in this matter- rotten. How long are they going to continue using this 'weapon' to cow down women? Are they aware of the revolution taking place around them? Today's enlightened, independent woman is dauntless and does not care a hoot for such abusive words hurled at her. It is high time such arrogant men wake up to reality and seek how to save their dignity and place in family and society! If they choose to turn wise they shall throw away this blunted sword- an 'attaikaththi'!!!
Eager to watch the trends of the world & to nurture in the youth who carry the future world on their shoulders a right sense of values.
8th April 2012, 10:40 PM
"FEMME FATAL - Is India a Country that doesnot respect it's women ?" - An Article by Manjul Misra, in "The New SUNDAY EXPRESS Magazine" (India) 8th April 2012
An 'enlightening article' with some statistics given which are food for thought.
2,13,585 was the number of crimes against women in India in 2010, as per National Crime Records Bureau
585 Crimes against women every day is what the NCRB figure translates into -----
-------- 45% of crimes against women are domestic violence cases,
-------- 28% is the conviction rate in rape cases,
-------- 33% is for dowry harassment cases, and
-------- 19% for domestic violence
-------- 2005 the year in which the government enacted a law to deal with domestic violence.
Last edited by virarajendra; 8th April 2012 at 11:06 PM.
5th July 2012, 06:06 PM
Commendable effort. Thanks
Originally Posted by virarajendra
14th July 2012, 10:55 AM
Again the Women's fundemental rights are denied even in this third Millenium - in India.
The following News Item in "Zee News" tells us the story.
18th July 2012, 06:49 AM
[QUOTE=pavalamani pragasam;797995]It is a saddening truth that this odious 'bitch' calling habit of male chauvnistic pigs at the drop of a hat is omnipresent irrespetive of social status- educationally and financially. QUOTE]
true ! and the fact that a woman who dares to differ from the norm(according to them) is perceived as being loose-moralled. was watching neeya naana the other day and was unsurprised to see a guy boldly saying that he would only pass hurtful comments on a girl who's sense of style/behaviour is inappropriate.The good( decent i believe was the word used ) girls he said would be exempt from this. what is this yardstick they use to determine inappropriate vs decent ? Frightening stuff this ... until this collective psyche changes there would be very little progress!
No matter how they toss the dice it had to be ...
2nd September 2012, 11:16 PM
Instead of teaching daughters to look downward & walk, parents should teach their sons to look at ladies with respect.
Teach daughters to fight their battles instead of cowering in fear.
Teach daughters AND set an example of being a good human being, rather than to train them to become good wife, DIL etc.
Having her own opinion, being assertive or bold does not equate to rudeness. Lastly, when a crime is commited against a woman, scope on the crime-not on her clothes, location, family background, relationships etc.
Last edited by The Ratchasi; 3rd September 2012 at 08:51 AM.
You don't have to catch a grenade for me; for I can take care of myself. Just don't make me throw one back at you!
14th September 2012, 07:03 AM
The only possible and hopeful remedy is in the hands of young parents- both the father and mother first shed off all inherited gender bias in their own psyche and then bring up their sons and daughters with proper values about 'man' and 'woman'. Man and woman vary in temperament, ability, natural skill- adapted so by nature, genetically, biologically and emotive potential but basically as human beings both are EQUAL in worth, dignity and respect. With such fundamental childhood training, education at home we can achieve a better, happier society(as one portrayed by Bharathiyar).
Eager to watch the trends of the world & to nurture in the youth who carry the future world on their shoulders a right sense of values.
7th March 2013, 06:14 PM
The Annual "International Women's Day" on the 8th of March 2013 - is a global day celebrating the Freedom of Women World over, stressing on their Fundamental Rights and on their freedom to "express their thoughts by way of Speech, Writing, and Action, and be free from the domination of Men and enjoy Equal Rights with Men in every sphere of the Modern World. This Thread is brought forward on the day of this great occasion.
Last edited by virarajendra; 7th March 2013 at 08:12 PM.
7th May 2013, 12:04 AM