Difference between loving a Tamil & loving a foreigner?

**Soomy** · 29th January 2005, 07:17 PM

What is the difference between loving a Tamil person & loving a foreigner? For me, loving a Tamil person is being married without inevitably being in love. Loving a foreigner is being really in love without inevitably being married.

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**blahblah** · 30th January 2005, 12:02 PM

Horrible!Horrible!

**Bad Boy** · 30th January 2005, 08:55 PM

What do you want to say exactly? Or, what should we have to understand? What about the case a tamil being a foreigner?

**Soomy** · 31st January 2005, 06:22 PM

Tamil people do always arranged marriage.

I give some examples : a tamil man married a tamil woman not because he loves her, but because he wants her to cook a meal, to clean dirty laundries and to keep warn with him in bed (if she is really beautiful like a hindi woman).

**nirosha sen** · 31st January 2005, 06:25 PM

I thought the the whole of India practised arranged marriages!!! So why only put Tamil men under the microscope???

Onoo puriyale Ma!!

**Soomy** · 31st January 2005, 06:35 PM

Oh, I said generally for immigrant Tamil people in the world, and also for indian people. Can you explain why parents in UK, France or Canada trick her daughter, who can't speak one word of Tamil, to spend for holidays in India or Sri Lanka, she is arranged married without her consent and she doesn't come back home ?

It is normal that her husband in India is old, bald and ugly, that she has a boyfriend, Tamil or no-Tamil, and she hasn't finished studying yet ?

**nirosha sen** · 31st January 2005, 06:39 PM

I think you need to be more specific than that Pa!! Care to PM me???? Although I'm no Agony Aunt but could always lend a sympathetic ear!

**Bad Boy** · 31st January 2005, 06:48 PM

It seems soomy had a very big fall! He is on his straight way to idiocy.
Sorry he is already there.

**aravindhan** · 1st February 2005, 04:51 AM

Can you explain why parents in UK, France or Canada trick her daughter, who can't speak one word of Tamil

Are you sure you're talking about Tamils (I noticed you mentioned "Hindi girls" in another post)? I spent a good while in SE Asia and Europe, and as far as I've seen it's quite rare for second-generation Tamil immigrants to not be able to speak their language. They may not always read and write it fluently, but "can't speak one word of Tamil"??

she is arranged married without her consent and she doesn't come back home? It is normal that her husband in India is old, bald and ugly, that she has a boyfriend, Tamil or no-Tamil, and she hasn't finished studying yet ?

Again, are you thinking of northern Indians / Pakistanis here? Forced marriages are no longer that common even amongst them, but they're even less frequent amongst Tamils, and forcing a girl to marry a man much older is extremely rare nowadays.

**scorpio** · 1st February 2005, 12:14 PM

"It is normal that her husband in India is old, bald and ugly"

What do you mean?? Do you think all men in India look like 60s in their 20s? Can you pls. define 'ugly'? Is it something to do with skin colour?

Dear, you definitely seem confused!