nallathOr veeNai

[sipi]

hi venki...

PP, nalla kavidhai ezhudhuvangannu theriyum... but, ippo thaan kadhaiyum supera ezhudhuvangannu therinjadhu....

[Badri]

Good views coming out of this thought provoking thead.

Another aspect to be considered here is it is not just the women who is the victim. The husband too has no pleasure out of the marriage!

Oru velai intha dysfunction kalyanathirku apparam aayirundha? Here the assumption is unmaya marachi, kalyanam pannirukaanga. What if the whole thing happened after the wedding? What if the man was in good health before?

Kashtamo sugamo, rendu perum sernthu pagirnthu kollvathu thaaney dhaampathyam? Avanukku vantha kashtam avanudayathu, naan yaen athil badhikka pada vendum endru kaettal, piragu yetharku thirumanam?

[crazy]

[sipi]

edhuku confusion crazy???

[sipi]

PP, naanga unga story ku against comment pannom nu thavaraga ninaika vendam... verum story ya parkum bodhu, arbudhamana karu... unarvugalai thatti ezhupura kadhai... aana, oru kadhai verum kadhai ya maatum mostly eduthukuradhu illa... ella kadhaigalileyum naama society ku solla pora vishayam mukiyamanadha iruku...

(hmm,... enaku kadhai ezhudha theriyadhu, so advice panra alavuku arivum illa, theiriyamum illa... but, kadhaigal padikiradhula niraiya interest iruku... so, ennudai karuthukalai mattume solgiren..)

neenga solra vishayam, correct nu eduthukitta... naama ivalo varushama katti kaapathina vara oru vishayam miss aagidum... adhu culture illa... adhu uruvugal mel irukura pinaipu...

innaikum western countries, nammala parthu bramichu nikiradhu.. nammaloda culture mattum illa... naama, namma uruvugal kitta erpaduthi irukura pinaipu .... 5 mins sandhoshathukaga, life long kidaika pora oru nimmadhi, anbu, uravu idha izhandhuda koodadhu...

[crazy]

illai anna inga marriage patthi niraya pesureenga, enakku onnume puriyala sollavum theriyala athaan confusion

[sipi]

hahaha... marriage pathi pesala, crazy... human relationship pathi thaan sollurom...

[pavalamani pragasam]

Sipi, the disagreements here mainly rise, I think, because of a certain generation gap or in other words how such a problem( very very rare one) is viewed from the angle of parents. A girl child is to her parents Bharathi's own Kannamma, chinnanjchiRu kiLi, selva kaLanjsiyam etc. This story is based on real life. 2 girls of families closely known to us happened to be affected in this way. Both girls were engineers, as also the grooms. One of the girls' father died of heart attack after the misfortune. The parents of another girl are yet to recover from the trauma. I reveal this background for my story for you to understand how 'this' also is included in the conjugal rights of a girl! Nobody will like being caught unawares in such a predicament, after all is said & done!

[sipi]

PP, naan solla vandhadha neenga thavara purinjikittinga... andha rendu girls'um baadhika pattadhu varuthamana vishayam thaan... illainu sollala... marriage aana odane therinja vishayam... badri, sonna maadhiri oru 5 yrs vazhndhadhuku appuram oru accident la edhavadhu aagi irundha???

adhuvum illama, generation gap la edhuvum sollala... neenga bala kumaran stories padichi irukingala, idha vidavum penn mutretra sindhanaigal ezhudhi irukaru... adhu ellam ethu kolla mudinji iruku... idhu mattum thaaan oru nerudal...

marriage pannikama oru girl, thevaiyana podhum mattum sex... inga avaloda vishayam mattum thaam mukiyamanadha paduthu... adhe pola innoru girl, husband oda kaatu mirandi thanathala pirinji vandhuduva, avalum vera oruthana accept pannika mudivu pannuva.. marriage illama, cause, avala porutha varaikum freedom vendum... adimai thanam iruka koodadhu... indha concept ellam sex - avangaluku rendam patcham maadhiriye sitharika padum...

but, unga kadha ending la, idhu romba mukiyamana vishayam.. idhu illaina vendave vendam nu solra maadhiri iruku... adhan ivalo solluren.. thavaraga ninaithu kolla vendam...

generation gap edhuvum illa enna porutha varaikum edukura mudivu theermanamana, mudiva irukanum... life la ambition, achievement thaan vendum... marriage vendam.. sex thevai yana podhu irundha podhum... adhuku marraige vendam nu sonna.. ok..

but, marriage ngra oru uravu vendum... namma nesika oruthar vendum nu ninaikum bodhu... sex anga irandam patchama thaan irukanum....

enna porutha varaikum... marriage pannikiradhu, sex kaga illa... sex um mukiyama irukalam.. adhu oru part aavum irukalam... but, adhu reason kidaiyadhu...

[pavalamani pragasam]

Sipi, it is sensible to be practical in our concept of marriage, no use speaking hypothetically. FYKI I have never succeeded in bringing myself to appreciate/applaud presentday writers propagating revolutionary, feminist, women's emancipation ideas/solutions/narrations!!!!!!!!!