Love Marriage Vs Arranged Marriage

**selvakumar** · 11th April 2006, 03:08 PM

Love Marriage
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"It is happens like a soft breeze and continus throughout life (the feeling). Also, Love blossoms (pure love) like a flower and grows in a spontaneous way and in a healthy atmosphere

Arranged Marriage
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This is like - PUTTING TWO BIRDS IN A CAGE AND ASKING THEM TO FALL IN LOVE & LAUGHING AT THEIR ACTIONS BY VIEWING IT FROM OUTSIDE.

It is like

FALL IN LOVE.. WON'T YOU

FALL IN LOVE.. WON'T YOU

It is LIke

"KuYiLa pudichi KooNdiL AdaChi, LOVE PANAN SOLLURA ULAGAM"

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**swathy** · 11th April 2006, 03:11 PM

Your comments on Arranged marriage is true and funny.

On Love marriage its ur dream.

Kaanum kanavugalil Inbam Inbam
Unmai adharkku vegu dhooram dhooram

**Shakthiprabha.** · 11th April 2006, 03:26 PM

selvakumar,

In olden days, yes, its true. Whether u are in love or not, u were forced to live together. These days ITS NOT SO, they opt out of marriage.

It may take time to fall in love, when it happens, its just the same as love marriage.

**Fire111999** · 11th April 2006, 03:37 PM

Originally Posted by Shakthiprabha

selvakumar,

In olden days, yes, its true. Whether u are in love or not, u were forced to live together. These days ITS NOT SO, they opt out of marriage.

It may take time to fall in love, when it happens, its just the same as love marriage.

i agree with you there.

and also, nowadays, pple are given more time to get to know each other before marriage, so if they really don't like each other, they don't have to get married. for e.g. my sister's senior got engaged sometime last year, but her marriage is in june this year. and my cousin sister got engaged in dec last year and her marriage is in august this year.

**selvakumar** · 11th April 2006, 03:49 PM

Originally Posted by Shaktiprabha

selvakumar,

In olden days, yes, its true. Whether u are in love or not, u were forced to live together. These days ITS NOT SO, they opt out of marriage.

It may take time to fall in love, when it happens, its just the same as love marriage.

Sure SP.. If we are made to restrict ourself in caring about only one girl / guy, definitly OUT OF DESPERATION, IT WILL HAPPEN.

"IT IS LIKE - FORCING U TO CONCENTRATE ON ONE PERSON ALONE, MAKING YOURSELF ADJUSTING TO THEM RATHER THAN BEING NATURAL"

**P_R** · 11th April 2006, 03:50 PM

No offence in what follows.
How does one, over a couple of bondas and coffee, decide whether so-and-so is the right person to spend the rest of one's life with ? The trading of photographs without even knowing who's going to have a look at them. "KudumbathOda sErndhu sight adikkaradhu" all seem really curious to me. It smacks of double standards in families, where the kids are discouraged from internalising the whole process.

Originally Posted by crazy

better stay single Laughing for a while, then ur parents will give up on u and then u might have some time to think and find a better solution "love or arranged"!?

Hmm. Nice strategy.

**Raikkonen** · 11th April 2006, 03:50 PM

Love come Arrange is Lovvu
Arrange come Love is Javvu

**selvakumar** · 11th April 2006, 03:56 PM

Originally Posted by Prabhu Ram

No offence in what follows.
How does one, over a couple of bondas and coffee, decide whether so-and-so is the right person to spend the rest of one's life with ? The trading of photographs without even knowing who's going to have a look at them. "KudumbathOda sErndhu sight adikkaradhu" all seem really curious to me. It smacks of double standards in families, where the kids are discouraged from internalising the whole process.

PR - PiNNuReeNga

me too..

I hate the logic behind selecting the girl from the tons of PHOTOS and then going to their house, eating everything.. drinking whatever available and deciding among the GANG WHETHER SHE CAN SUIT US / NOT

My way:
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"WAIT FOR IT.. PATIENTLY.. SELECT YOUR PARTNER.. LOVE SOMEONE WITHOUT EXPECTING ANYTHING.. (It should happen naturally).. Then marry him/her.. You can make the things in a positive way"

**P_R** · 11th April 2006, 03:57 PM

Originally Posted by Fire111999

nowadays, pple are given more time to get to know each other before marriage, so if they really don't like each other, they don't have to get married

I think this modern feature is a little overrated. Can one really opt out because of basic incompatibility ? If it turns out to be something as grave as the proposed partner is a serial killer or has only half a liver left then the case is considered. Otherwise one is pretty much as locked in as in wedlock. Once engaged you already in a " nirai kuraigaLudan EtrukkoLLuthal" mode.