Married Life

[yosh]

Hi, Let discuss about the problem facing by all the married people and revert your suggestion to save a married life.
I have choose to discuss this topic for discussion after seeing my colleague's married life turning to be a nightmare for her.

Her story goes like this.
Her name is Jessy. She is married to Robert for the past 15 Years. They have 4 kids.
He was her first love and they fall in love after the first sight. The love get blessing from their parents and they get married after 2 years.
He's very hard working man, that spends most of his time in office, he provide her a house, a car and the needed things.
She is also working. She need to prepare the kids to school,cook,clean the house and does all the work. He only take care his career. After work she has to complete all the housework and prepare night dinner and guide the kids on the education.
It's 8.30pm…………he come home and she greeted him.

Jessy : Hi dear you want some coffee?
Robert : Yah
Jessy : you look so stressed. Have you taken your lunch today?
Robert : Emm
Jessy : Silence
Robert : Why is kids watching TV, why you never bath yet?
Jessy : no…I. came home about 6pm, I do washing,clean the house and prepare the dinner and assist the kids with their homework and you came in.
Robert : Then why are you sitting now, Go and bath.
Jessy : o.k ok
after she bath.
Robert is doing some office work in his laptop.
Jessy : Mani 9.15pm. Poiye kulingge, sappidalam.
Robert : Veedu suthamave ellai. Unakke pasicha poi sappete
Jessy : Today I had a severe back pain since morning
Robert : let me the day you are not sick
Jessy : Calls her first child, can you please rub my back as I having severe back pain since morning.
Robert : What are you grumbling at, If you sick then you and see a doctor. Athisaima nee oru alle than pulle pathekethe velaike pora mathiri.Sick kolly…..sick kolly … ………unge amma sollave illai nee ippadine.
Jessy : Na kalyanathe munne nalla than irunthen
Robert : Appe poo ippo unge amma videkke.
Jessy : Ya solemathenge.
Robert : I seriously think that you're pain cause you're very fat now……look at me appediye irukiren.
Jessy : 4 pulle petha enakkum ungalukkum vithysam ellaiya?
Robert : Ulaga athisayam parke………Nan sapiddu thadichachi, appuram kale valli, thala valli ne en uyire edukerathe.
Jessy : Holding her tears.
Robert : Seri sore ede……….pasikithe.
Jessy : vange sappide.
Robert : pillingala sappidacha.
Jessy : Em
Robert : Nee sappadeleya.
Jessy : vennam…..pasikille
Robert : Nallethu than kojam udambe kuraivom.

After finish eating, She continue to clean the kitchen and he watch T.V
she finishes all the work and enter her bedroom.
Jessy…..jessy make me some cofee before you sleep and don't forget to iron some nice clothes for me as I have meeting tomorrow and the child her……..amma don't forget to put alarm at 5am.

The clock shows 12.30am and she still can't sleep.

Please give some ideas that could turn their family to a happy family

[Shakthiprabha.]

Why doesn't she quit her job and take care of her big family.(managing 4 kids is not a joke)

Else, ask her to HIRE a maid to do job @ errands. Cleaning, dishwashing and other stuffs can be done by them. This would relieve lot of physical and mental tension.

This time can be utilised to get back to normal health (by exercising etc.)

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The hus is defintely VERY UNDERSTANDING. (irony please)

Next best thing is TO SIT AND TALK TO HIM, her problems.

[swathy]

My friend returned back home just in 8 months after marriage. She faced severe harrasment . dowry problem.

My advice is don't go for money minded guys even if he demand which u can afford coz u can't satisfy him. he'll demand more after marriage.

[pooja.shankar]

well ....

i t is large fam ...def ..

but i think ..a woman has aright to keep working ...


and if her husband is not considerate about her tiredness .... slap him ....

SHA .... my advice is dunt go for the guys driven by the figure factor... tell them to go and look at their face in the mirror and if it is good ..tell them to go to hell ...

one guy here says ..i want my bride to look like sneha and smile like jothika ....(and dance like simran and sing like susheela i think ....).... imagine if his bride said i want u to look like brad pitt , play like beckham and sing like Karthik ....

[pooja.shankar]

look like singer karthik too ( he looks cute ... LOL)

[great]

My friend returned back home just in 8 months after marriage. She faced severe harrasment . dowry problem.

My advice is don't go for money minded guys even if he demand which u can afford coz u can't satisfy him. he'll demand more after marriage.

still dowry problem

first of all, i dont know y the parents are still giving dowry........

The guy should put behind the bars

[Shakthiprabha.]

ok....

Whats everybody's opinion on,


INLAWS interfering with son or daughter's life?

[Querida]

che...is this true...ayyo pavam how it must hurt to have your loved one say such things....no advice from me but to be fair know both sides? As SP says know in-law's input? Still it breaks my heart that someone you love can be so bad in understanding... SP literally i have of course ideal perception but want in-laws to interfere when they are visited....em...sorry my opinion from this stage...

[Lambretta]

My advice is don't go for money minded guys even if he demand which u can afford coz u can't satisfy him. he'll demand more after marriage.

Exactly! Even middle-class parents feel tat if their daughter marries a guy of high-profile/income he wud keep their daughter happy......but I can say tat its not nec. true.......nowadays many of the youth earn well at a young age but many of them r reckless w. their earnings, squandering it on momentary enjoyments......no understanding of saving concept or family consideration....!
For eg. u may know tat a suitable groom u select for ur daughter is in sum IT/MNC/corporate/watever job w/ high pay.....fine......but u may not know wat he decides/wishes to do everytime w/ the money he earns.....!

still dowry problem
first of all, i dont know y the parents are still giving dowry.......

I believe nowadays they call it w/ different names like 'gift' etc......!
Its bcos such customs r not weeded out tat our culture as a whole tends to get a bad name!

[Sandeep]

NO TO DOWRY

Dont give dowry and make it plan not to expect any.

TOO MANY KIDS

Definitely the husband is wrong, but the wife (educated and employed) should have known better before bringing 4 lifes to earth. You loose some you gain some. She should choose her priorities.

IN-LAWS WELCOME BUT THEY SHOULD KNOW THEY ARE GUESTS

Advices/Suggestions from in-laws are very valuable but they should no when to stop and let their kids have thier lifes.