International marriages

**Alana** · 11th November 2005, 03:41 AM

I`d like to ask the members of the forum what do they think about a growing number of international or mixed marriages (please do not mention religion or caste issues). I have noticed the negative or at best sceptical attitude ( mostly among Asians) towards such unions here in Europe... What about your part of the world?

Thank you!

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**Anesh** · 11th November 2005, 06:17 AM

Well in my country we live with various different cultures and belief.It is norm we see mixed marriages. Well to some it is still an oddity but it has become a norm.It has been a trend in this past decade that at least a member of a family has had an inter-racial marriage.
To me it is kind of cool if we are looking at enlarging the gene pool. But in the long run it might briong closer the boundaries of cultuyre. But the progenies of this unions will be lost of an actual identity because of their mixed culture and the significance of certain cultures will be lost.

**lordstanher** · 11th November 2005, 08:04 AM

Originally Posted by Anesh

But the progenies of this unions will be lost of an actual identity because of their mixed culture and the significance of certain cultures will be lost.

Tats also true......or only the culture of one of the parents wud be given importance.......

**Alana** · 11th November 2005, 10:17 AM

I think that loss of identity, loss of main cultural traditions will happen anyway, esp. in western countries.

**sivajayan** · 11th November 2005, 07:45 PM

My Mom a "tambram" and my Dad is Dutch-German. They are still married for 40 years, still living together and never been separated.

Could be that you loose some cultural traditions but you gain much more! Now I got the interest to learn more about India because it is the right time. We are from Enschede, The Netherlands and we used to visit our german grandparents every fortnight or atleast once a month. As my mother's family (India) did not accept the marriage and was excluded we the children were not that much interested in India. Since my Mom left India(1965) she was never there once again.

**Alana** · 11th November 2005, 08:13 PM

Originally Posted by sivajayan

My Mom a "tambram" and my Dad is Dutch-German. They are still married for 40 years, still living together and never been separated.

Could be that you loose some cultural traditions but you gain much more! Now I got the interest to learn more about India because it is the right time. We are from Enschede, The Netherlands and we used to visit our german grandparents every fortnight or atleast once a month. As my mother's family (India) did not accept the marriage and was excluded we the children were not that much interested in India. Since my Mom left India(1965) she was never there once again.

Do you go everywhere I go?

You wrote about your Indian relatives, it is a common example... & that was exactly what i wanted to discuss in this topic. I have noticed that most of the Europeans are more tolerant to mixed marriages. A couple of years ago i heard that in Norway a old lady hung herself publicly.. that was her revenge to a son who planed to marry a local girl... i was shocked..

**nirosha sen** · 11th November 2005, 08:23 PM

Norwegian hanged herself because the son married a local girl???? Doesn't it make the girl, a Norwegian too?????!!!

So, um.....where is the foreign adulteration of their pure-bred Nordic blood?????

**sivajayan** · 11th November 2005, 08:28 PM

Originally Posted by Alana

Do you go everywhere I go?

Is it bad or do you start to like me?

Originally Posted by Alana

... I have noticed that most of the Europeans are more tolerant to mixed marriages.

I think this is because of the world wars I guess. But there are also enough other examples. The hatred towards foreigners and/or religions back my thoughts too.
But you are right saying that europeans are more tolerant.

Originally Posted by Alana

A couple of years ago i heard that in Norway a old lady hung herself publicly.. that was her revenge to a son who planed to marry a local girl... i was shocked..

Is it true that lovers also commit suicide because they lack of support by their families?

**ssanjinika** · 11th November 2005, 08:51 PM

SV:
In quite a few of your posts you have made your views of "Indians" pretty clear.Its obvious that you consider yourself an "European" and think "Indians" are way down the ladder.IMO when a child of intercultural marriage puts one culture down while accepting the other wholeheartedly,there is obviously some discrepency.If both the partners were able to integrate their cultures into their lives then the child also would be able to accept/appreciate both the cultures equally.