~ Forget the bitter past ~

**Anoushka** · 22nd July 2005, 07:17 PM

Rami

Actually it is difficult to forget the past.. but as I said if you learn to let go then it is not so bitter any more! I used to feel bitter about so many things till I learnt to let go! And once I discovered that, I realised life wasn't that bad after all! I haven't forgotten things but it doesn't hurt anymore!

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**malligai** · 23rd July 2005, 08:29 PM

Originally Posted by blahblah

Originally Posted by malligai

Why should anyone forget their past??

My Past is my Navigator for my Future. Every experience that i had in the past tells me how and where to go, and how and where NOT to go in the future.

So i relish and treasure my past experiences, no matter whether they are good or bad..

Probably the only post that makes some sense here!

Why should anyone forget or 'let go' the past?It is better to understand the past,analyse it and learn lessons from it.

Malligai,I particularly love that sentence,"My past is my navigator for my future"

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Thanks, blahblahblah....

**malligai** · 23rd July 2005, 08:30 PM

oopss..sorry..i added an EXTRA 'blah'...

**Idiappam** · 23rd July 2005, 10:13 PM

Originally Posted by malligai

oopss..sorry..i added an EXTRA 'blah'...

Never mind! It sounds complete now!

**malligai** · 23rd July 2005, 10:33 PM

Saba,

achoo...now blahblah is going to be 'cross' with me, for extending his name...

aama..idhu thaan 'pichu odharadhaa'??

**Shekhar** · 24th July 2005, 08:44 AM

Originally Posted by Shekhar

Kpriyachary,

Why should one forget the past? Past has given us experience and hell lot of knowledge. You want me to forget what I learnt yesterday, and start afresh every day? ...

Hey! This is what I said in the beginning of this thread. and blahblah gives credit to malligai and she takes it!!!

8) 8) Great!!

Quote:
You cannot even if you want to.
To say 'forget the past' is glib. We should only conciously ensure that the 'past' doesnot negatively interfere in our decisions of the present.

How should one do that, then?

Is there a "universal remedy" for that, which will work on any human brain?

Please spell it out!

Stranger,

Forgetting is automatic defence mechanism of the brain to make life bearable. How fast we forget depends upon the severity of the unpleasant experience. In case of extreme trauma people don't even remember what happened. It is off almost instantaneously.
Also true how fast people forget differs from individual to individual and depends upon their capacity to withstand mental and physical pain. Strangely it is the 'weak' people who cannot withstand suffering forget it fast and move along normally. Which explains innumerable instances of helpless women who lose their husbands and still make their lives with their children almost miraculously.
To handle one's past positively needs maturity and a philosophical attitude towards life. I think handling past becomes easy once we realise life cannot be generalised and every day is different. If somebody has cheated me in the past, and if I don't believe anybody, presuming anybody may cheat, is not mature. We should learn from experiences and move on..